Tuesday, August 19, 2008

A Touching Story

I was looking online this morning for an article on the talk the Presidential Candidates had with Rick Warren---and, I found this story. I thought it was touching, so I wanted to share.
(Note that this is not to pump up John McCain. Truth be told, I'm not jumping up and down about either candidate.)
My mother has recounted to me how when I was a prisoner of war in Vietnam, she sometimes overheard my father praying for me. He was in charge of U.S. forces in the Pacific at the time and suffered from the burden of commanding a war in a country where his son was imprisoned. As my mother recalled, she could hear my father in his study, on his knees, beseeching God to "show Johnny mercy."

My father would have been surprised to know what unlikely forms God's mercy could take. In prison, my captors would tie my arms behind my back and then loop the rope around my neck and ankles so that my head was pulled down between my knees. I was often left like that throughout the night. One night a guard came into my cell. He put his finger to his lips signaling for me to be quiet and then loosened my ropes to relieve my pain. The next morning, when his shift ended, the guard returned and retightened the ropes, never saying a word to me.

A month or so later, on Christmas Day, I was standing in the dirt courtyard when I saw that same guard approach me. He walked up and stood silently next to me, not looking or smiling at me. Then he used his sandaled foot to draw a cross in the dirt. We stood wordlessly looking at the cross, remembering the true light of Christmas, even in the darkness of a Vietnamese prison camp.

This guard was my Good Samaritan. I will never forget that fellow Christian, and I will never forget that moment. I will always remember as well the Christmas services that my fellow prisoners and I held in a cell, when I gave thanks to God for the blessings he had granted me with the company of men I had come to admire and love.

In the life of our country, faith serves the same ends that it can serve in the life of each believer, whatever creed we might profess. It sees us through life's trials. It instills humility, calling us to serve a cause greater than ourselves. At its best, faith reminds us of our common humanity and our essential equality by the measure that matters most.

A living faith calls us as well to care for the most vulnerable members of society. The poor, the hungry, the stranger seeking shelter and the child waiting to be born — all are in need of our compassion and protection. Faith shows us that the weak and defenseless are not a problem but rather a priority, and a chance for us to live out the message of the Gospels.

That message can reach into any place, however dark. Even in solitary confinement, when everything else has been taken away, nothing can separate us from the love of our Creator.
Reminds me of this verse from Romans 8:
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
What a great thought to start the day!
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On another note, I wanted to share a prayer request. The mom in a blog I've been reading recently is pregnant with a son with detected heart issues. She is about 27 weeks and they didn't expect the baby to make it this far. The baby's name is Stellan. Please pray for him. Her blog is www.mycharmingkids.net. If you choose to read her blog, please note that I don't agree with everything she believes. In fact, we seemingly are quite different. But, I love to read the opinion of others who differ from me. I think it challenges my thoughts to broaden my horizon---or to deepen my current beliefs. So, in that way, I have enjoyed reading her thoughts and my heart and prayers go out to her in her current struggles with Stellan.

Monday, August 18, 2008

I don't like this feeling


Today was the orientation for Reese and John's Mother's Day Out. All went pretty well. We are at a new "school" this year, so there is always some adjusting. Reese seemed to be enjoying it when I picked her up from her class, though (as evidenced by the lack of jumping up and running to me when she saw me at the door). So, I am optimistic that we'll be happy here.

On our way out, we saw a little girl (and her mom) that is in Sunday School with Reese at church. I was talking to the mom and Reese ran up to the little girl. (Both mom and girl shall remain nameless to protect the innocent. I don't know the mom well at all--as we are not in Sunday School together--so doubtful she'll ever see this, thank goodness.)

Reese: Hello
Little Girl: I don't like you, Reese! (in a quite hateful tone)
Reese: (grabbing little girl's hand) But, I'm sweet. You do like me.
Little Girl: No, I don't like you, Reese!

Ok, at this point, Reese was about to burst into tears and I was just standing there dumbfounded. (Thankfully, Reese bowed up and didn't cry.) Luckily, we were at our car at this point, so the other mom and girl left us. Reese looked up at me and in her sweetest, broken-hearted voice: "Why doesn't [insert name] like me, Mommy?" I just told her that the little girl was probably having a bad day, like all of us do. I must admit that it hurt my feelings a bit that the other mom didn't take more seriously how badly Reese was hurting. But, I'm sure, like me, she was in a hurry to get home and didn't notice the impact it had on my little one.

Later this afternoon, my mom asked her if she enjoyed playing with the other kids at school and she said, "No, they don't like me."--which, I am assuming is stemming from our after school episode.

Ok--what is KILLING ME today isn't this one episode...I'm sure Reese will forget it before I know it. It's that we are obviously getting to the stage where Reese will have to face this. There are so many things in this life that I want and expect Reese to face head on....not making the whatever-sports team, not getting an A on something-even if she worked hard on it, not being the most popular in class, not always wearing the "right" brands. I don't want my child to always be the one to get the "smiley-face sticker" b/c that is not real life. But, I'll be honest, I think that is going to be so much easier for me in theory than in reality. Because what happened to my little girl today truly hurt my heart. I think I may have to just crawl in bed with her tonight and hug on her until we both fall asleep. I feel such a need to make sure she knows that she is loved.

I guess all I can really do about it is try to teach her that the way that little girl treated her hurt....and that it is ok to have those feelings....but to use that feeling to try to never make someone else feel that way. Because, I know that Reese will not be innocent in the way of hurting other's feelings....no kid is.

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On another note, John was sick all weekend. My happy, playful little boy looked at me like this all weekend...

In short, my kids need to give their ol' mama's heart a break! : )

Thursday, August 14, 2008

John--fast-forward 12 years



Hello, my name is John and I play Jr. High Basketball.


(MG--you may be the only other one that finds this a little funny.)

Tunnel Memories

Ok--this post may just be for MG and me.

MG--we got the tunnel out last night. I have such fond memories of you and I as little girls playing for what seemed like hours in our tunnel. I still remember finding it under Mama and Daddy's bed before Christmas. I think that it is the toy that started my annual quest to find my Christmas presents before Christmas day. (For those of you who just gasped in horror that I would do such a thing---calm down. It was just as much a surprise finding out what I was getting for Christmas when I found it on December 19 as it would have been on December 25. It was so much fun being a little "Nancy Drew" and solving the mystery of what I was getting. And, on top of that, another part of the fun was the acting job on 12/25 as if I had no earthly idea that I was getting it. : ) Of course, that is before Mama caught onto me and started writing out her Christmas list in short-hand. Darn those secretarial skills!)
Back to the tunnel...

Reese loves it.




John--not so much. Of course, it could have been that his sister kept forcing him in there and pulling him in every direction. A couple of times, she even coaxed him in there and then picked up one end so that he had to stay in there and couldn't crawl out. Poor little thing. He was so mad! Finally, at the end of the night, he crawled up to me and gave me this face...




As if to say..."Mommy, help a brother out---she's killin' me!"
So, at that point, I scooped John up, gave him a big hug and kiss, and put him in his highchair in the other room with a bottle and turned on his "shows". Sometimes, a boy just needs to kick back with a drink and the TV, and be left alone. : )
We'll work on the love of the tunnel when Reese isn't around.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Good Women

Here's a quote that I saw recently and liked:

Here’s to good women…
May we know them…
May we be them…
May we raise them…

Amen!


PS--Notice the 10-key Reese was playing with in the background of the last pic---Nice!

Saturday, August 9, 2008

A morning with my boy!

My sweet, dear mother and father let Reese spend the night at their house last night----so, that meant I got a whole morning with just me and John!!!! I do believe that it is the first time since my maternity leave that I have had this treat. So, we got up (John slept in until 6:30a just as a treat to me!) and hit a few garage sales. Then, we went to the Botanical Gardens b/c I was determined to get a few cute shots of him while it was just the 2 of us. Well, what I learned was that when you have no one there with you to entertain, get the attention of, and--oh yea---keep them from eating rocks or falling down steps....its kinda hard to get good pics of a 10 month old little boy. I started honestly wondering if John knew what his name is, because he sure as heck wasn't responding to it. : ) So, therefore, most of my pics ended up looking like this...






But, I did get a few shots and we really did have a good time. I truly love, love, love my sweet little John. After an hour, he was cranky and I was sweaty, so we headed home. All I have to say is that I'll keep trying, but in the meantime, thank God for my talented, sweet friend Heather Swanner who takes the really great pics of my kids.

Well, off to change John's now dirty and wet (from the dew on the grass) clothes---then to lunch with my real photographer friend, Heather---then to pick up Reese.

What a treat today has been! Thank you so much, Mama and Daddy!

Here a my favs from today. The rest are in the slideshow.



Friday, August 8, 2008

Our Girl's Day







After I posted that I haven't taken pics of the kids lately---I remembered last night about Reese's and my fun girls day a couple of Saturdays ago. We sent Lee and John to Uncle Johnny's in Troy---and Reese and I spent the whole day together. It was a blast. We first went to Sweet & Sassy, a salon for little girls. Reese got her hair cut, complete with glitter hairspray and a purple glitter star on her cheek. Then, she got her fingernails and toenails painted. She has seen my pedicure all summer and really has been wanting to have her nails done---so I thought it would be a fun thing to do. She LOVED this place. Too expensive to do all the time---but we will definately be back.

Then, that afternoon, we went to the play Beauty & the Beast at the Virginia Samford Theatre. It was great. Small theatre. We had seats close up, so Reese didn't get distracted too much by others and really focused on the play. She LOVED clapping at the end of each song. She really enjoyed the singing and dancing. She looked up at me several times and said "This is fun, Mommy." It was long---2p to 5p. But, I thought she did great for a 3 year-old. I saw some mommies filling up sippy cups with Coke during intermission : )---but luckily, I got away with just 1 rose-shaped lollipop. I am so glad we live in a town where I can expose her to different things.

Of course, no true girls day is complete without a trip to Target. After supper, Lee and John stayed at home to watch some hunting shows and Reese and I went to Target to get school supplies and school uniforms for a charity drive at church. I was able to explain to her (though I am still not sure she was listening) about why we do things for others. Hopefully, one day, that message will sink in.

At the end of the day, I was putting Reese to bed and she looked up at me. In her sweetest 3 year old voice, she said, "Thank you for my girls day, Mommy." Delight.